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“A happy, zestful life is, indeed, an attainable goal” is, indeed, true.
But to do that takes action whenever we have “unwanted results”. In short, we must cure and resolve the thinking and cause of those unwanted results.
And to do that, we need to apply learned awareness. “Awareness is the degree of clarity with which we perceive, understand and evaluate, both consciously and unconsciously, everything that affects our lives.”
“The actual cause of emotional suffering is how we perceive and react to unwanted circumstances. False and distorted perceptions, lack of understanding, warped needs and goals, and the unwise means by which we attempt to achieve those goals, produce our self-rejection and hurting.”
LIFE CAN BE A BALL!
A happy, zestful life is, indeed, an attainable goal. It is not what happens to us but how we handle unwanted situations [in the moment and for the future] that determines our misery or well-being.
Our adverse experiences, handicaps and misfortunes are but the focal points for our pain and unhappiness. The actual cause of emotional suffering is how we perceive and react to unwanted circumstances. False and distorted perceptions, lack of understanding, warped needs and goals, and the unwise means by which we attempt to achieve those goals, produce our self-rejection and hurting. We can successfully deal with what is—not with what we wish or want.
The fundamental block to personal happiness and harmonious, loving relationships is a lack of awareness of the factors that influence our individual behavior. When these factors are scrutinized with a mind bent on discovering truth rather than confirming conditioned concepts, it becomes clear that antisocial and other harmful acts stem from a limited and distorted awareness, and the resulting pain of self-rejection.
Practically all human misery comes from self-rejection, the product of our limited and distorted awareness.
Awareness is the degree of clarity with which we perceive, understand and evaluate, both consciously and unconsciously, everything that affects our lives. Next to life and death, awareness is the most vital factor of human existence. It determines both our needs and how we fulfill them, how we feel toward ourselves, i.e., our self-esteem, and how we relate to our family and fellow human beings. In fact, our individual degree of awareness is the only limiting factor as to how wisely and harmoniously we act and react, both at work and at play. Thus, our awareness actually determines our degree of well-being, happiness and zest for living, for it is responsible for every choice, every decision we make!
[While this book refers to “self-esteem” (the way we regard ourselves), it is about ALL of life. Self-esteem is, indeed, a core affector of how we deal with life and of our happiness.]
Inadequate self-esteem is basically a problem of awareness. Self- rejection is the result of a mind that has been programmed, i.e., conditioned, by false and destructive concepts. This conditioning causes us to develop a lifestyle that perpetuates our feelings of inadequacy, futility, and personal unworthiness. Adherence to distorted values generates a desperate and compulsive need to be “better than”—a compulsion that is behind our personal and social problems.
Excerpted from Building Sound Self Esteem, Happiness, And Healthy Straight Thinking, L.S. Barksdale, which is provided free by our never-a-cost site: Gain Access.
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