One of the requisites for being happy and having well being is to be very, very kind and loving to yourself. But, oddly, many people learn distorted beliefs, such as thinking that it is selfish and not right.
It is required!!!!
We could write a book about those or a long article, but I hope that you note how necessary it is and then go about learning how to do that. (Such as in Loving Yourself – An Essential Basic Of Life...)
Here’s the one on the opposite door of the frig: (simple but guiding)